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Kelli's avatar

The "Success Sequence" thing reminds me of the (years) pushing the "marshmallow test" thing. SMH. We know what kids need: Stability, food and shelter, love and support, healthcare, and opportunity. Every argument for some character-based new thing is just another way to say that we don't *actually* want to support kids, we want them to be better without tangible support from their society. Ugh.

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Don A in Pennsultucky's avatar

I don't think that is something that can be taught. I doubt it is something that works if people are trying to follow the sequence and jump the gun. After all, many young marriages end in divorce and a child or 2 that don't have the 2-parent household that is considered part of the success sequence. I have 2 brothers. The eldest married a pregnant woman in a traditional church wedding and less than a year after that child was born, the parents split up. Later the same year as wedding #1, the other brother eloped with a pregnant woman and they have stayed together for more than 50 years and have 2 other children all with children of their own. I didn't marry until I was nearly 30 and aborted the child that was conceived soon after because we knew we couldn't afford it and we both needed to keep working. Our first child was born 3 years later and the 2nd was 5 years after that. Child #1 is now 41 years old. Neither is married.

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